|Posting on a Sun makes me feel a bit like going to Confession
||[Mar. 8th, 2009|09:39 pm]
I met up with 5 of my poly mates a couple of weeks back. The last time I saw most of them was ... wow, 1997, when we graduated. 3 of them have "graduated" to mothers, 1 of them is on the way, and the other's single like me. Now, guess what the dinner conversation was about?|
If you guessed "KIDS", good for you! Take a bow and grab a free coffee on the way out. Yes, its all about the 4-letter word, KIDS.
I'm not a child-hater, nor do I go around kicking small children. In fact I'm the proud aunt of 2
monstrous mischievous girls. So I do know a bit about small humans, especially after I'm being lectured on the virtues of the different members of the WINX Club, and why Ben10 is cute. Sigh.
But honestly, an entire night's conversation's devoted to kids?? Pull my nails out with a pair of pliers will you? Baby names, baby furniture, nursing times, delivery stories, baby toys, baby clothes, breastfeeding, cost of diapers, "your baby's more behaved than my baby".... One of them even mentioned that she and her husband were considering to start volunteer work at a primary school soon so their son would have a higher chance of enrollment. Did I mention that the son is EIGHTEEN MONTHS OLD???
My brain kinda shut down after that.
They mentioned about meeting up again soon. I was cool with that, provided that "soon" translated to oh, another 30 years or so.
Last Fri, I met up with S, a galfriend for coffee and cakes at Prive (lovely, lovely place). She mentioned that one of her friends recently mentioned to her about freezing her eggs. Apparently this friend was worried as she was now into her thirties and still very single.
I nearly fell off my chair while S was relating this to me. Do women my age really think about freezing their eggs?? Should I too be considering such issues?
Frankly, I think I'm too self-centered to have children. Once you have kids, everything you want takes second place. No doubt, kids bring a smile to your face, and mothers often claim that seeing their kids after a hard day's of work makes all their hard work they put in worth it. But still, I always feel that I'm a kid myself, and the responsibility of bringing up another person scares me to death.
My sis-in-law was mulling today over what her life would be if she didn't have kids at such a young age(she became a mother at 22, and no, its not a shotgun marriage). She concluded that motherhood may not even be her choice. This revelation came as a surprise to me. I always thought Mothers are usually incredibly satisfied with their life choices.
Me? I'm just happy to play auntie.